What Not To Do

If you are supporting a friend who is experiencing domestic violence there are a number of things you should avoid doing. They include:

• Telling them what to do.
• Letting them know you are disappointed if they don’t do what you have suggested or if they go back to their partner.
• Making comments that imply they are to blame for the abuse.
• Trying to mediate between the partners.
• Confronting the abusive partner - this can be dangerous for you and for the abused partner.

Getting involved doesn’t mean you have to solve the situation. If someone turns to you for help and support it means helping them find their own answers. You cannot ‘save’ them and it is important not to be disappointed if they don’t do what you think they should. Leaving a violent relationship is difficult, it can be dangerous and it may take time.